When????

Single me here. Now back on subject again, the life and trials of single and what a life and trial it is. The question of "When?" is always on our minds. When do we kiss? When do we meet the friends? When do we call? and the all mighty question, When do we get intimate? These seem simple in the mind to answer but are actually not so simple to answer. Seems strange to me even and I am a straight shooting gal who does not dance around anything.

The truth is that we need to not ask the questions. We should act on our feelings and just let things happen as they happen. Stressing the "Steps", as I call it, only causes unnatural reactions. We all know when the feelings arise and holding them back can come across cold to you or your guy or gal. Just go with the moment and see what happens. People are not mind readers, they need to know what is on your mind. If your shy, gentle gestures of affection can carry a message load and clear. Ladies, you want him to kiss you but don't want to come across to bold, simple answer to this. Look him in the eyes and gently rub your hand along his jaw line. This is a sweet way to say "Kiss me already". Guys, you want your lady or potential lady to be more intimate, don't get pushy. Keep her close to you and suttle caresses will send the message that you want her without you having to say a word. If your guy or gal is there with you on these feelings, it will happen without an expression of words or the risk of embarrassing rejection. Most times the rejection is due to the shy bug and not because they are not into you.

Now the meet the friends thing, well that is a rough one. Harder to determine then the getting intimate. Because lets all be honest here, if the friends don't approve at some percentage, then you might as well forget it. Just remember, when you meet the friends. He or She likes you, so relax and be who you are with the friends. They have a way of knowing when your fake and putting on a show or being real. This really is not a situation where you can control the outcome. I look at it more like you would be meeting a new friend yourself. You don't really try to impress, you just simply try to find out if you can be friends too.

All and all, just go with what feels right. People make this more complicated then it is and should ever be. Things won't work out for you every time, but eventually there will be that one, that special one where everything just falls in place and no questions are needed.

Live, laugh and do it again.